This is beyond creepy.

The Lifelong Guilt Trip of Abstinence Pledges and Purity Balls:

Pastor Ron Johnson, who has five daughters under a purity vow, said exactly the same thing to ABC News when one of his daughters was asked what she says to people who want to know if she has a boyfriend: “You told them you have a boyfriend. It’s your dad.”

To follow, her whole youth group was subjected to numerous sermons and Sunday School lessons on abstinence, an education that even seeped into her everyday school life. “My school had a special week called ‘ABC: Abstinence Best Choice,’” she explains. “During it, we had someone come speak to us. She took a piece of flash paper, lit it on fire and said, ‘This is what happens when you have sex.’ I still don’t really know what she was getting at with that demonstration. We also did a thing with tape where you stick it to each person’s arm and then show that it’s not sticky anymore — that was somehow also what happened when you had sex.”

Marie says the pressure was on the girls, since it was understood that boys were “wired” differently.

Marriage, though, was far from a panacea. “On our wedding night, we attempted sex for the first time and I started crying and he stopped. I ran and locked myself in the bathroom. I was so ashamed he would know I wasn’t virgin.” Delaney then told her husband about the sexual assaults, after which they tried to have sex again. “We sort of accomplished it. But then the guilt hit. I felt dirty. I felt evil. Then I called my dad and apologized for having sex WITH MY HUSBAND ON MY WEDDING NIGHT.”

Written on October 20, 2024