Why are you mad at me?
From an Instagram post: What trauma sounds like: "Are you mad at me?" Did I do something wrong?" What this really means: "I spent my childhood walking on eggshells, constantly reading the room,...
Posts tagged with "trauma"
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Trauma insights
From various Instagram posts: Everybody is shocked when you start being real serious about boundaries like yeah surprise, I'm not a people pleaser anymore so let's see how cool we really are. --- My...
Harder to manipulate
From Reddit: You didn't become selfish. You became harder to manipulate. Don't confuse the two.
Thought you were dead
The event that made me swear off lawns entirely occurred in 2009. It was like 109 heat index. My mom was here for the summer from Saudi Arabia. I get home from work, and she hounds me to mow the lawn...
Anger stage
Fom an Instagram post: Nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. The rage you feel when you realize how much and for how long you were taken advantage of. The absolute disgust you feel towards...
Fatherless behavior
Suffering in silence
From an Instagram post: I have a toxic trait, which is that I suffer in silence and hope someone notices I am not myself. This is because growing up, I had to constantly be there for others, and no...
Moral perfectionism
From an Instagram post: According to psychology, some people panic when they think they've done anything wrong, and obsess over he same mistakes from their childhood repeatedly. This is called moral...
Protector
From an Instagram post: Were YOU the protector who needed safety? You knew as a child that your role was to be a "little adult." To hide how you felt, to ignore your needs, and to keep it all...
Reading minds
From an Instagram post: Stop assuming that people are mad at you. Stop attempting to read people's minds. Stop trying to manage the thoughts and emotions of others. Let people be in charge of...
Hyper vigilance
From an Instagram post: The biggest problem for overthinkers is that when they get too attached to someone, their entire mood depends on how the other person responds to them. They are so attuned to...
Overthinking
From an Instagram post: My therapist told me that: "Your-anxiety and overthinking is a trauma response to tne fact that no one truly protected you when you were younger, but you always did the best...
Raging parent
From an Instagram post: If you grew up in a dysfunctional family with a raging parent or where expressing emotions led to being wronged, ignored or punished, you quickly learned that your emotions...
Survival mode
From an Instagram post: "People don't get what it means to be in survival mode as a child. While some are building social skills, kid survivors are building defenses. As adults, some are building...
Kindness from trauma, pt 2
From an Instagram post: The kindest people are not born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced much at the hands of life. They are the ones who have dug themselves out of...
Dependence
From an Instagram post: At first you didn't understand why you got frustrated when people start depending on you too much. But it's because your inner child gets angry that you had to figure it all...
Self-isolate
From an Instagram post: My therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed, you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.
Vulnerability
From a post: I understand how deeply it can feel like holding space for yourself-creating a place to just exist— comes at the expense of others or risks being dismissed as selfishness. And I see how...
Raised by narcissists
23 Things Only People Who Were Raised By Narcissistic Parents Will Understand: You were an adult before you ever got to be a child – and now, you sometimes still feel like a child in an adult’s body....
Nervous system
From Threads: I am literally a full grown adult, still stuck with the exact same nervous system of the autistic kid on the playground with no friends, and the same echo still in my heart saying...
Benefits of bad childhoods
Surprising Benefits for Those Who Had Tough Childhoods: Sarah also credits her upbringing for giving her the observational skills of a master spy. She can sense when people are hiding something from...
Polyagal theory
From Reddit: ...your therapist also would be well served by reading Deb Dana's books on Polyvagal Theory. Some good quotes that I think you'll appreciate: "When I teach Polyvagal Theory to colleagues...
Internalizers
From an Instagram post: If there's anything internalizers have in common, it's their need to share their inner experience. As children, their need for genuine emotional connection is the central fact...
CPTSD roots
From Threads: Having CPSTD I can remember the day, where I was at, roughly how old I was ( child.) When that seed of CPSTD took root. I remember the pain of that small child crying out to a imagined...
Trauma hope
From an Instagram post: Some of the kindest souls I know have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings I know have been through so much at the hands of others, and...
Metafilter Snippets
Forgiveness Is forgiveness overrated?: > "In a 2008 essay in the journal In Character, history professor Wilfred McClay writes that as a society we have twisted the meaning of forgiveness into a...
We don't have people
From a meme: People like me don't have people. We are the people that people that people have.
My life
Birth - 7 years old 1981 1983-84 I can't form attachments to places. I don't have a sense of home. --- 7-11 1986 I fell behind on homework in science class. I remember feeling more and more...
Awkward at work
From a meme: I just told a story at work about my childhood that I thought was really funny, but now everyone is super quiet and someone said "I'm so sorry."
Gutter
Presents
Around 30 years ago, my family moved to the US from overseas. In the country we came from, Mother's Day wasn't celebrated. When we got here, my 2 sisters and I thought it would be nice to get our mom...
Wil Wheaton on his dad
No child deserves to be treated the way the man who was my father treated me Father’s Day is tough for me. I don’t have a dad, because the man who was my father made a choice, when I was a child, to...